Between Head, Heart & Self: A Feminine Journey Through Trilotherapy

We grow up learning how to achieve, function, plan, and perform.

Somewhere along the way, almost without noticing, we forget how to feel.

And when we forget how to feel, we forget a simple truth:

happiness is not a thought — it’s a feeling.

Maybe it’s time to remember how it feels again.

Trilotherapy — the approach developed by Zen Master Nissim Amon — helps make sense of this inner disconnection. It explains so clearly why so many women move through life from the neck up, and what it really takes to return to joy, creativity, and freedom inside ourselves.

The Trilogy Within Us

In Trilotherapy, our inner world is made of three distinct forces.

The Head, playing the role of the Superego — the strict, demanding part that evaluates, compares, organizes, and insists on control and safety.

The Heart, playing the role of the Id — emotional, instinctive, expressive, longing for pleasure, movement, softness, colour, connection and aliveness.

And then the Middle, the Ego — not the judge, but the mediator. The part that can slow down, listen to both sides, and restore balance.

Balance, as we all discover, is not something given.

It is something we learn — often after years of living in a head-led world.

How the Head Slowly Takes Over

Life rewards the Head. Responsibility, motherhood, deadlines, expectations — the more we “behave,” the more approval we receive. The Head becomes the voice we trust. It becomes the ruler of our inner world.

The Heart, however, becomes too emotional, too expressive, too unpredictable.

So we quiet her down.

We silence her needs.

We ask her to wait.

We tell her: not now… don’t make a scene… don’t want too much… don’t be too much.

And little by little, the emotional child inside us shrinks.

For many women, this tension shows up in one sentence:

“I (head) don’t allow my self (heart) to dance because… what will they think?”

That is the moment the Head turns into a tyrant, the Heart becomes wounded, and the true Self fades beneath the noise.

Returning to Happiness Means Returning to Aliveness

Happiness doesn’t come from more discipline, more control, or more perfection.

It comes from movement, creativity, softness, expression, and pleasure.

It comes from giving the Heart room to breathe, to want, to feel, to enjoy, to move without justification.

The Head brings stability.

The Heart brings life.

The Middle brings balanc.

Only when all three have space can happiness become a lived experience rather than a concept.

What Are You Giving Your Heart These Days?

We invest endless energy in training the Head.

Courses, responsibilities, schedules, achievements — we build a world for the Head to thrive.

But the Heart…

When did she last move in a way that felt like release?

When did she play?

When did she create something without purpose?

When did she hear music and let herself melt into it?

When did she feel safe enough to be wild, soft, expressive, or quiet?

The Heart needs nourishment just as much — and perhaps even more.

The Body Felt It Long Before the Mind Did

The body always knows.

When the Head dominates, the body tightens. Breath becomes shallow. The pelvis hardens. The nervous system stays alert. Fatigue creeps in, and joy fades. But when the Heart is allowed, the entire body responds.

Breath deepens.

Movement becomes fluid.

Creativity awakens.

Emotion becomes clear.

A quiet vitality returns — the kind that cannot be forced or faked.

The body never wanted only strength.

It wanted permission — to soften, to release, to express, to be heard.

At Lea, This Philosophy Lives in Everything We Do

At Lea, trilotherapy is not just an idea — it is one of the pillars of our center.

Alongside movement therapy, women’s psychology, somatic practice, and sexuality studies, it shapes the foundation of who we are and what we offer.

We don’t wait for creativity and joy to appear on their own.

We intentionally weave expression, creativity, freedom, and pleasure into the everyday experience of our women — not as an escape, but as a vital resource.

And we do this while honouring the other side of life: structure, boundaries, responsibility, and the demands of the world.

Lea is the meeting point where both realities of womanhood are welcome —

where order and spontaneity, discipline and freedom, coexist in one body and one breath.

A Lea Invitation

Everything we do — movement, breathwork, creativity, circles, sisterhood — is designed to help you bring the Head and Heart back into conversation.

To let the Head rest.

To let the Heart open.

To let the Self return.

So maybe this season, ask yourself gently:

What can I give my Heart that is not for achievement — but for aliveness?

And then, with softness, give her exactly that.

She has been waiting.